Enjoying mum's new convertible...

'How does it feel to become a middle-age stereotype' my brother asked my mum as she entered the driveway with her new BMW convertible. 'Fantastic' she replied without hesitation! Later that day, my brother understood exactly what she meant as they soared along the motorway with the top down...!

I on the other hand had a slightly more reserved consideration. There are times when I opt for a wig as a mainstay to my outfit. Meetings with potential or new clients, times where it simply matches my outfit and moments when I don't have sun cream to hand and require additional protection. All of these factors left me with one mild worry - how would my wig fare in a top-down convertible?!

In my mind, I had visions of travelling with the top down, minding my own business, then watching in horror as my wig behaved like a flying squirrel, to land on the windscreen of the following car! A few months ago, you may have spotted my post on wigs in the wind, putting it to the test in gale force gusts (video below) so what's my worry about  being in a car with the top down? Well it's simple - unlike blustery weather, the breeze generated by a car is constant - it is a constant speed in a constant direction, not letting up for anything. I was worried that the constant pressure would be too much on the wig, on the fitting and off it would go.

There was only one thing for it; to put my trusty Codi to the test and see how it fares...

Watch the video below to find out what happened!

With the top-down:

Earlier this year on a blustery day:

Just to say, this video is shot with a Codi synthetic wig, properly adjusted with zero glue or tape. I would have proved these factors, but I didn't trust myself in a moving car!

Anyone else put their wig to the test with the top down?

Victoria x

Packing / Suitcases

Once upon a time, I used to be a terrible packer, squeezing in everything I could in fear that I would forget something! Then I grew up and become far more blasé, turning into a last minute, late packer with a more casual 'oh well' attitude to the idea of forgetting something - I can always buy it nearby...

Along came alopecia and my packing style changed again; granted, I'm still last minute and I still pack fairly light in terms of quantity of clothes, yet somehow, the average size of my suitcase has doubled! Why I hear you ask? Simply because of my wigs!

As you've probably gathered by now, my wigs are an accessory rather than a necessity, something to enhance my look or outfit, rather than something I NEED to wear. Each person will be different here, but one thing is certain - whatever the reason for wearing wigs, I won't go on holiday without them, in just the same way I won't leave without flip flops, sunglasses or handbags. I want the flexibility of wearing a long sundress with a curly wig, then a pair or shorts and strappy top with a bob. What's more, there's a sun protection angle too - without hair, only kiddie's hats are a good fit on my head (and tend to have some off-putting childish design or feature) leaving me with a very real need for wigs in the sun! Yes, my scalp does get some sun exposure, but it's sensitive too, so can't handle too much!

Anyway, back to the suitcase - the addition of a protective box, along with a portable wig stand, tangle tamer, several wigs and all the associated paraphernalia, and my suitcase has gone from small and neat to big and bulky. My boyfriend moans about it - I look like the woman that can't pack light - I crash it into everything, and it takes up just that bit more space in the boot! It also means I'm lugging a big bag around alongside other people's neat ones (just like at the hen party) and I find it pretty annoying!

In the grand scheme of things, nothing is going to change this - I've bought the smallest items I can. pack them as neatly as possible, but short of finding a replacement / suitable hat and making a huge decision to spend an entire holiday bald, there's not much choice left!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

The A-Team; our A-Z of hairloss...

You might have seen me announce yesterday that I'm attempting to compile an A-Z of everything hairloss, in a bid to create a useful resource for you to draw on! I KNOW I won't remember everything for each letter the first time, but whenever I remember anything extra, I will pop back over to the right letter, update it, then let you know via our social media channels!

Anyway, I'm wittering away and putting off the inevitable, so here goes 'A' in our A-Z of Hairloss . Enjoy!

Adjustable - It's a shame this is the one to start with, as it is a little bit of a stretch, but hey, that's how the alphabet goes! Anyway, it's a common misconception that wigs come in only one size, but that is simply not true! A lot (particularly synthetic) will come in multiple cap sizes AND will be adjustable! This is a great feature as you can see here...

Adjustment - hairloss is a big adjustment! From changing your routines, having to think about wig care (if you wear one), changing habits and even just adjusting emotionally, it is all an adjustment which will feel difficult at first, but you'll get there in the end I promise!

Alopecia (Areata, Totalis, Universalis, Androgenetic, Traction): A common cause of hairloss, alopecia can cause partial or total hairloss from the head and body. It is an autoimmune condition and you can find out more about it here...

Alopecia - Me and my bald head...

Alopecia UK - if you are looking for support with your Alopecia, then Alopecia UK is the official UK charity who can help. Go check them out for great information, group support and anything else you need!

Alternative Hair - another word / description for wigs, 'alternative hair' is a common term and you can search online for an 'alternative hair specialist'. As well as wigs, this term also encompasses toppers, extensions, partials, and all sorts of other things too!

Anagen - Anagen is the 'growth' phase in the cycle of a hair follicle. Depending on genetics, the anagen phase will last 2-7 years for the average person. In cases of medical hairloss, the hair fails to return to the anagen phase, resulting in baldness.

Androgenic Hair - This is the technical term for body hair that develops after puberty. Its growth is affected by the Androgen hormone which means that typically men will have more androgenic hair than women. In many cases of hairloss, including both alopecia and chemotherapy hairloss, androgenic hair will also be affected, as well as scalp hair.

Angry / Anger - Unless you are becoming a #BaldHeadedBeauty by choice, it is inevitable that at some stage you will feel an overwhelming sense of anger! Whether you are angry about the 'betrayal' by your body, by the lack of support for you and your hairloss, the reaction of others, everyone will feel angry for a different reason and it is perfectly normal! You will reach a point where you need to let it go though, otherwise you risk long-term emotional problems!

Anxiety - As with anger, unless your bald look is by choice, anxiety will be a common emotion for you to experience. I certainly did - fear people would judge me or think less of me, that my wig was obvious, that my hair would never come back (although that no longer applies) and pretty much anything else you can think of! Anxiety is common, but you need to find coping mechanisms to ensure that it passes and you can handle it!

Appearance - hairloss will change your appearance. For some people, the close cropped look is a choice and for others it won't be. Either way, it will change your appearance, whether you opt for wigs to keep it concealed, or embrace being a #BaldHeadedBeauty it will change your appearance!

Artificial - Artificial can be used in two ways when it comes to hairloss. First, as another (less common) term for wigs or alternative hair, sometimes interchanged with synthetic. Second, some people say they feel 'artificial' or 'fake' or worry other people will think them so, if they opt to wear a wig! You shouldn't, this isn't a bad thing to do and you just need to remember, it is YOUR choice!

Assumption - This is most commonly a word used with alopecia; one of the things that happens to me quite frequently with my alopecia is the assumption that I have cancer, whenever I go out and about bald. Some people get offended by this, some upset and ultimately you will feel what you feel - for me though, I TRY (but don't always succeed) to embrace these assumptions, and use it as an opportunity to educate and raise awareness of my own condition!

Autoimmune - Alopecia is an autoimmune condition which means that the immune system is attacking the hair follicles and causing loss.

Awareness - Awareness is crucial when it comes to hairloss as it is so misunderstood by Doctors and in fact a lot of people generally. What awareness does is help sufferers encounter less negativity as each year goes by, not to mention helping with fundraising, research, improved care, support and many of things besides! If you feel up to it, get raising awareness - it is so important! This applies for alopecia, trichotillomania, chemotherapy hairloss and everything else too!

Awesome - some people (including me) absolutely love their hairloss, or at least grow to enjoy it! This takes time, but is something you can acheive! The reason I wanted to include this in the list is that otherwise, all the 'A' words like Anger and Anxiety are negative, and there are positives to hairloss too! Check out #100HairFreeDays for some of the reasons I have embraced my hairloss!

Awful - As with 'anger' and 'anxiety', awful is another descriptive words that many people will use about their own hairloss or somebody else's. It can be 'awful' and there were days (and still are now occasionally) when I struggled and this was the perfect word for it, but this too will pass if you want it to!

Phew! I think that is absolutely everything that I can think of, but there'll be something I've missed!

Have we missed something? Let us know via Facebook, Twitter or email...

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

Wigs as an accessory...

The very first thing I did when looking for a wig was default to requesting a human hair wig, almost an exact colour, length and texture to my natural hair. It was about replacing / replicating my natural hair in a bid to ensure that nobody noticed or knew I had medical hairloss unless I wanted them to. At that moment my priority was discretion at all costs.

Unfortunately, my journey to finding the perfect wig wasn't a simple one! There was bad advice, poor fittings, unnatural hairstyles, not to mention the cost! I waded through too much information, and then alighted on a wig consultant who actually understood wigs! It was a revelation...

Since then, I have learned that actually wigs are great, either as a medical replacement for your hair, or merely as a FANTASTIC accessory that slots neatly into everyday life. For me, my original driver of discretion is a thing of the past and my wig is no longer a security blanket that gives me the confidence to be who I am.

You might have noticed that I am fascinated by hairloss - by its' causes and by its' effects. I love finding out how and why it affects different people and what they struggle with the most. Through these discussions, I have identified a number of common factors, which provide a good insight (and can sometimes be worrying) into the misconceptions of wigs...

1. Wigs are expensive; and therefore do not provide a viable option, particularly with such poor NHS provision. Yes some are expensive, but there are also some fab, long-lasting, lightweight, comfortable and affordable wigs on the market which don't cost much more than a good-quality winter coat or pair of shoes from Dune. Wigs do not have to be expensive in order to offer a good solution to your hairloss.
2. Wigs aren't the 'true' you; the hairloss community is very divided on the use of wigs. Some people are campaigning for their provision on the NHS, with an almost vehement assertion that we need to cover up, and others are almost the opposite, encouraging people to 'go bald' and be their true selves. Actually, neither is necessary and I myself have opted to use them as an accessory; a fashionable statement that enhances an outfit, a warm snuggly head cover when the wind is a bit nippy, and an option for my hairloss if I am feeling in the mood. It is about being comfortable in yourself, and the actions of others should not influence how you choose to deal with your own condition. RELATED POST: Why you shouldn't feel pressured to wear a wig...
3. Human hair is the way forward; uh yeah, if you love styling hair and are happy to invest the time and effort, I own two human hair wigs and neither has been worn more than a handful of times. Unfortunately, for me they are high-maintenance and due to my lack of skills, often look more like a wig than some of my 'off the shelf' synthetic faves. Don't underestimate the versatility and quality of a synthetic wig - even five years ago they were heavy, unnatural, scratchy and ugly, but now they give natural hair a run for their money, are durable, low-maintenance and affordable. Get involved!

There is no right or wrong when it comes to wigs and each person will have their own approach; for some, only human hair will do, while others prefer to go au natural and have the confidence to do so! Great! Both sound good to me! I pick and choose according to my mood and no longer focus on the 'wig' as a covering, but more as an accessory - some outfits just look better with long curly hair, while others match a bald look and some just need a short crop or bob! Exceptional! I love this flexibility!

What got me thinking about this was a night out on a Hen Do last night! Into my bag, I packed my favourite beany (in case it got nippy), a short bob, and a long, curly number, along with a choice of outfits. In the end, we didn't even get a chance to change, but I LOVE having that flexibility in my back pocket!

Here is my range of looks...

Rocking the bald...

My staple bob - a synthetic wig...

Long curls - another synthetic...

What wigs do you opt for and when do you wear them?

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

Why you shouldn't feel pressured to wear a wig...

You might have spotted this post about the negative connotations of the word 'wig', but aside from their name, what about the decision to wear one?

When losing my hair, I went through every stage of grieving; from anger to denial, grief to acceptance, switching back and forth between the different emotions for the full nine months it took to fall out. Without question, I wanted a wig - something to give me the opportunity to come to terms with it in my own time, without having to handle the emotions, questions or opinions of others. What's more, I wanted it to match as closely as possible to my natural hair, so that those who didn't know would barely notice the difference - potentially thinking I'd simply had my hair done. At the time, I don't think it was a concious decision, more a necessary one.

As a novice, I didn't know a single thing about wigs - the options, the prices, the waiting times, but I did know I wanted one, and that I wanted one as fast as possible. I opted for a mixture of at-home research and seeking out an expert and whilst at the time I didn't have the confidence to buy online, it's something I wish I'd done. Still, that aside, for me, a wig was definitely the way forward and that decision came from me, not from any external pressures.

Speaking to other people with alopecia, something that never ceases to surprise and amaze me is the differences in each individual journey and the different ways people handle the situation. Something that these differences confirm for me, is that there is no single 'right way' to handle your hair loss, but that being true to yourself is the single most important thing. During our trip to Alton Towers, I became engaged in a conversation about the decision behind opting to wear a wig. Whilst I, and many others struggle without the safety net and security of a wig (which isn't a bad thing), this person highlighted her own aversion to wearing them, right from the word go. This aversion, came simply from the fact that she couldn't handle or process the idea of wearing anything on her head, when her own hair was falling out - how could she handle the psychology of replacing her hair when her own was falling out?

In case you haven't noticed, I am fascinated by alopecia and hair loss and also by the impacts both emotional and physical of what our bodies go through. I'm fascinated by the latest research, the ways we can manage the condition and so on... This conversation was absolutely no exception. Having only ever considered it from my own perspective and experience, going 'au natural' was a stage in the journey to acceptance - a positive step to helping me come to terms with my own hairloss. Naively, I thought each person was the same, particularly having met so many others for whom going out bald was a stage, that I never stopped to consider it the other way around. When I did though, whilst not part of my own process, I totally understand the choice not to opt for a wig in the first place and the way that can help you process!

Once again, what this entirely confirms to me is that each individual person will and should handle this in their own way, and importantly should stay true to themselves on the journey! Wig or not, do what you want to do and don't ever let yourself feel pressured into believing that a wig is your only or mandatory option!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

Is wig really a scary word...?

A few days ago, I read a sentence from someone who said "wig" was a really scary word, and instead that she opted to refer to it as 'alternative hair'. Having never really thought about it before, this sentence really struck a cord with me and got me thinking about how I feel about the word "wig".

Wig is not a word that has ever really bothered me; it is what it is and my wigs are just that - wigs. When I first needed one, it's what I looked for online when I searched "buy wigs" and "wig specialist", it was what I refer to when I blog, talk or sell; in fact, it's what everyone else I know refers to them as too. Sometimes, I will use the phrase alternative hair, and indeed some of the wig brands I wear also refer to them as such, but I've never really thought twice about "wig" before.

Now that I have been triggered to think about it, the first thing I did was Google what the word 'wig' means; according to good old Google, it is defined as: "A covering for the head made of real or artificial hair, typically worn by judges and barristers in law courts or by people trying to conceal their baldness". Not what I was expecting at all - for it to be defined by its' use and not what it is. For me personally, I would define a wig as 'an alternative to natural hair, made of knotted human hair or synthetic fibres', potentially adding 'used to create the appearance of natural hair'. The use in the given definition of the word 'conceal' doesn't sit well with me, given the use of wigs and weaves to create more manageable hair, their part in disguises and fancy dress, and of course, their use by judges and barristers, but I understand the sentiment.

That definition aside however, I personally still don't get a negative feeling about the word 'wig', although I appreciate why others might. Having only lost my hair a few years ago, I have had the perks of the latest wig technology and the ones available now, whether synthetic or human hair, are exemplary giving natural hair a run for their money and providing every user with a comfortable, natural experience. In fact, whatever your wig-based preferences, there is an available and viable option for each individual need, if you want it. Roll back a decade or two however and natural-looking wigs were the privilege of the rich and famous like good old Dolly Parton. For everyone else, itchy, scratchy and thick wigs that looked stiff and were not far from the hairstyle of a lego person were far more the norm, and they didn't come cheap either. I guess for many therefore, those whose hair loss has been around far longer than mine, wig may be a more negative word, but then again, maybe not.

Looking at it a different way, if you don't call it 'wig', what else do you call it? Returning to Google and typing in 'wig synonym', it suggests Postiche, Toupee, Rug, Hair Extension, False Hair and Weave, but no viable alternative which encompasses the whole collective. Yes, alternative hair does encompass them all, but it doesn't exactly trip off the tongue. Hmmm! I'm still not convinced on the negativity of the word, but that is of course entirely my personal opinion. I guess for me, I'm not sure where the negative connotations come from, but I don't deny they exist for some people. For me, any potential negativity comes not from the word, but from certain realities, like my own terrible first wig, but the word will never put me off my love of them!

How about you guys? How do you feel about the word? Or about wigs for that matter? Don't forget to let us know!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

Thanks pretty bald !

Hello !
So I have been away for some time and I must apolgies for that.
I have had such a busy month or so , moving in with my boyfriend ,kieran, whos across the country to me and then moving jobs and finding a new one.  Basically im growing up !  But I'm ready for it.

I also wanted to spend some time away to try and find myself . Without this sounding incredibly dramatic of course .
I was always known as 'danielle with the curly fire hair' ( having red and yellow hair of course ) for many years , but when my hair fell out .... well you can feel my pain. We have all been through it or know someone who has.
So over the month away I thought I was coming to grips with my hair loss. My partner kieran couldn't of been anymore supportive if he tried . Hell , I even got to the point I was cracking bald jokes and even making myself laugh.
Many people asked why i wore hats ,id turn round and say 'because im BALD' i must admit i loved seeing there faces ..... so awkward !!
Everyone I worked with new about it and no one cared . I even have a nice thin layer of white hair on my head .  Everything started to look positive !

It then got to the point were I looked in the mirror one morning  and saw a patch of hair missing from my eyebrows . Every positive thought I had was just gone ... I felt so deflated and like I was back at square one . I worked so hard to get over my hairloss, and now I had to watch my face being rubbed out. Its devistating. 
What's worse is that I'm more concerned about my partner. He tells me he loves me and that I'm beautiful everyday . However when I wake up and look in the mirror all I see is a blank canvas . How can you love that ?
How is this beautiful ? 
I don't feel it and being someone who's not flush in money I can't even afford to get my eyebrows tattooed on.

So from someone who Apperently had 'such a cartoon face' ( which was perfect for my acting career) to this blank face,
I'm guessing my next hurdle is to over come this.

I do have alot of thanks to give to the ladies on twitter and pretty bald .
I think without your support and encourageing words . I'd be alot worse of than I am , mentally .
Our alopecia community is the best support group for me and I do love you all !

Best wishes !!

Danielle x

GUEST POST: Making the cut; cutting long locks for charity...

This post is about donating your hair to charity and has kindly be written by my work colleague Kirsten - enjoy! 

About a month ago after a night out, my friend Emily decided that she wanted to cut her hair off after she woke up with it smelling of smoke and in such a knot that it took her a good ten minutes to brush out. She decided that if she had to get it cut off then she at least would do something wise with it.

Currently, Emily and I live together and seeing as I see her every day without fail I can tell you this. Emily ADORES her hair. She hardly gets it cut in fear of the hairdresser's. She spends a lot of time grooming it and making sure it looks good. She spends over half an hour in the shower, then another hour blowdrying it and straightening it. I’m happy to announce that, although it took as hell of a lot of swaying back and forth, she decided to get her hair cut, and I couldn’t be happier. Not only for my own selfish purposes, but also because she has decided that the hair that gets the chop will be donated to had charity called “The Little Princess Trust.”

The Little Princess Trust is a children’s cancer charity that specialises in supplying real hair wigs to children suffering with cancer for the duration of their treatment.  They also assist children with other conditions which result in hairloss; the most common being Alopecia. Their hope is that the gesture will help the child and family, whilst they decide on long-term plans for dealing with this condition.

Well done Emily; I'm just going to leave the link to Emily’s Just Giving page, just in case.
https://www.justgiving.com/emily-weall/

In the meantime, you can get in touch with The Little Princess Trust to see about donating your hair.

Kirsten x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

#WigWorry: A windy day...?

A little while ago, I wrote about people having a #WigWorry, but haven't had time to write one since! It's time for another one though and this one is inspired by the weather outside!

I'm not sure about everyone else, but right now, in my area there's some gale force winds roaring around, and despite not being as cold, they're giving the mid-winter gales a run for their money! Talk about windy! Well, one of the things many people worry about when wearing a wig is that it'll blow off and they'll be left exposed, feeling more than a bit nippy! So how can you prevent it whipping off?

1. Buy a wig that fits... I know 'a wig that fits' sounds really stupid, but you'll be surprised how many people opt for the first wig they can find in desperate moments, or haven't got the experience to pick the right type of wig for them. When buying a wig, measure your head (I'll write a separate post on that), then ensure that the wig you are picking matches as closely as possible to your own measurements. If you can't find a close match, don't panic; I for one have 'abnormal' head measurements, with a large crown, small nape and medium circumference which makes buying an off-the-shelf wig more difficult. There's a solution for every head type though, so for me I opt for wigs with adjustable sections at the nape, enabling me to fit the wig to my head, but at the same time leaving room for the crown. I'll write a post on cap types too, but for the purposes of keeping this post simple, I'll simply advise you to pick the wig that fits. For some, it'll be an adjustable one, some will opt for silicone grippers and some will go for PVC they can glue. 
2. Properly adjust it... Whatever wig you opt for, ensure that it is properly adjusted on your head for both maximum comfort and security. If it's too shallow or not properly fitting, there will be areas that are more susceptible to gaping or springing off. If your wig is properly adjusted, it should feel comfortable, without giving you a headache and will withstand a gentle tug backwards. Obviously it isn't attached, so it will come off with a hard yank, but gently lifting should confirm an element of security.
3. Opt for added security... Personally, I don't need it, or particularly like it, but added security can be created through the use of adhesive tapes or glue. A few small sections will be just enough and no amount of wind will take it off. You can also add a beanie hat (because if it is windy, it's likely to be cold too), a hairband, or add a wig cap or grip band underneath the wig to ensure that it has additional friction.

Wind can be a bit of a pest to wig wearers and there will be times when it feels a little like it is lifting in the wind, but as yet, I haven't managed to lose mine on a windy day. To prove it, here is a YouTube video of the gale force winds blowing earlier in the week, and a make-up free, very grumpy faced video of me in my wig! Sorry I don't look a bit more enthusiastic, I was focussing on not being blown over!

The wig in this video is my trusty Codi from the Rene of Paris Amore collection, which is properly fitted on my head, has an adjustable nape which is tightened under my Ocsipital Bone (the lumps on the back of the skull) and has no tape, glue or wig cap. It is quite simply the wig as it comes, resting on my bare skin, blowing in the wind! Enjoy...

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

What it's really like to need to wear a wig PART 2

At the end of last week I shared a story from America about one girl's experience of wigs; I also posted my first in a series of blog posts about the story and this is my second...

In the first post, I delved into the video, and ultimately my disappointment at the unsatisfactory wig consultations people face everyday! In this, I shall focus on her story, which I found a much more interesting and realistic read than the video...

"That night, instead of a blowout, my wig got destroyed. The hairdresser washed my hair wrong — you can't scrunch up hair on a wig the way you can natural hair — and it ended up in a gigantic knot. All the leave-in conditioner in the world and hours with a comb couldn't help him detangle it."

This sentence made me feel more than a little sick! Not only is a wig ruined and the poor girl has to venture out in the cold with no hair, but there was a $4,000 price tag AND to make it worse the guy apparently knew about wigs! True, accidents happen, but this story does highlight the need for you to a) understand your own wig care so that you can stop others being stupid and b) select someone that is actually qualified, not a well-wisher. Unfortunately, a lot of (not all) hairdressers start selling wigs to help out clients with cancer or alopecia or similar, without a real understanding of their individual needs. The best way to blow dry a wig is first to wet it with a spray bottle as it allows so much more control! At home, at least you are in charge and can be more assertive, but in a hairdresser, sometimes fully wetting is best avoided!

"The new wig was good enough, but it wasn't great. It still didn't fit right. It looked like a wig, which didn't make up for the $4,000 price tag or the emotional cost."

Don't accept second best! It's clear from this story that the poor girl had no choice, what with a holiday the next day, but it's your money so YOU have to be happy! A couple of times in my life when I had my own hair, I left a salon thinking the haircut wasn't quite 'me', but also knowing that with a wash and natural bounce it would probably look better, and if all else failed it would grow. A wig won't, so make sure you are happy with it, before you leave the shop or take out the label!

"Not everyone has been scared that a strong gust of wind could unseat her hair."

This makes me so sad and isn't something anyone should feel! I can categorically say that the one and only time I have lost a wig is chasing my dog under a tree and hooking it on a branch. Occasionally, sections of a wig can lift in extreme wind, but even when we've had gale force winds it has coped! This is simply because of the fit - whether synthetic with an adjustable cap or human hair with silicone sections, if it fits, it's pretty difficult for the wig to come off! If it's really that windy, then it's probably cold too, so a beanie hat is great for added security if you are that worried!

"Not thinking about my hair all the time has given me back the confidence I didn't realize I was missing — when I look in the mirror, I feel good about the person looking back at me. I've been worrying constantly about my appearance since I first watched my hair slide down the drain in clumps every time I took a shower all those years ago. For the first time in a long time, I feel like me."

Just because you wear a wig, you shouldn't have to think about your hair all the time and certainly I don't! If you are, then either you haven't found the right wig yet, or honestly and truly wigs are not for you! A wig should be like a fab pair of shoes - something that makes you feel great, not something that you wish everyday was different!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

What it's really like to need to wear a wig PART 1

You may or may not have spotted me share this story on Twitter and Facebook yesterday, about one girl's wig experiences and the emotional and financial drain she faces. When I posted the story, I also promised to blog about it and give my thoughts (I have very mixed feelings about the piece) and it has inspired a series of blog posts, of which this is the first!

The first thing I did was watch the video, and I went from horrified to pretty angry at the content of that video! The video is inane and very misleading and whilst I appreciate the hair stylist is responsible for Beyonce's beautiful, bouncy locks, if my wig consultations went anything like that, I'd have been out the door faster than you could say 'wig'.

There are two common ways to buy wigs; first, through a wig reseller, either a hairdresser or wig specialist or second through an online store. What that SHOULD involve is an opportunity to discuss and consider your options, likes and dislikes, and second, the opportunity to see what a wig looks like before saying 'this is the one'. Upon watching the video (which takes a different tack), the hairstylist tells the girl what she will have which 'should come in at less than four grand', and then when they are ordered in and arrive, the pair decide 'this is the wig' after no more than wafting it around on a polystyrene head. Luckily for her at the end of video, she walks out with glamourous, very natural looking hair and a big grin on her face, but no thanks to the consultation in my eyes! I hope to goodness that this is just a poorly edited, low-budget video to 'add interest' rather than a glimpse at the reality of the consultation; but based on my discussions with other people, this type of experience is all too common!

Don't ever believe that just because someone sells wigs for a living they a) have a clue what they are talking about, b) understand the emotional and physical experiences involved in wearing a wig or c) resell the right wigs for you. There are a lot of absolutely fantastic wig specialists and advisers out there, but there are also many that 'fall' into selling wigs, either as a way to make money, as an extension to a hairdressing business, or because they originally tried to help out a friend. Unfortunately, the latter can often leave people with a feeling that wigs are essential but a nightmare, rather than the much more desirable accessory that fits simply and easily into your everyday life. What a good wig should make you feel is fabulous and your natural self, and in the best case scenario should make you fall in love with it! True, it isn't your natural hair, but when you can't face the prospect of being a #BaldHeadedBeauty just yet, you wig should be your absolute best friend, not an item to be tolerated.

Here's what's so wrong with this video:

1. There are probably a million different wigs on this planet ranging from synthetic to human hair with different cap constructions, styles and prices. For a good wig that's suitable for medical hairloss rather than dressing-up, you should expect to pay somewhere between £100 and £4,000 depending on your choices. £4,000 should not be your starting point and should be a very serious, considered decision as there are plenty of lower-budget wigs out there that can be just as good as a £4,000 one; trust me! 
2. TRY. IT. ON. I cannot stress this enough - try a wig on. How good they look and feel will depend on your head shape and size, the cap construction, the colour of the hair, the colour of your skin and the shape of your face. Something that looks fabulous on a friend can look entirely different on me, and just like buying a dress, you have to make sure it fits when it's actually on. True, your consultant can help increase the likelihood that it will fit, but they can't guarantee you will like it until it is on. Even if you order it online, as long as you don't wear it for hours and send it back with any obvious wear, you can give it a try to ensure you are happy!
3. Think about your lifestyle; a wig is not a direct replacement for your hair, because it is not growing out of your head! I know that sounds a tab obvious, however it does mean that it isn't repairing itself or growing, and therefore it will deteriorate over time. I have both human and synthetic wigs, but having an active lifestyle with a lot of dog walking, windy days and not a lot of spare time, it's my synthetics that get the most wear, offer the best value for money and suit me the most. Don't think that a synthetic can't be as good as real hair and make a considered choice rather than selecting the closest physical match to your original.

As I said, this seems to be just a poorly shot promotional video rather than any serious reflection on the appointment or service offered (she expands on the service in the actual article), but it does unfortunately provide unrealistic expectations and your wig experience just shouldn't be that way! If you do have any questions, feel free to email me and I'll be happy to point you in the right direction!

Victoria x


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My first wig experience... A lesson in determination whatever the odds

Losing your hair can be terrifying particularly if like me you don't know the cause, trigger or likely outcomes and instead feel like you are wading through mud just trying to get through each day. Don't worry, that feeling does pass, but in the meantime many opt to select a wig in a bid to maintain a sense of normalcy and identity. That's perfectly natural and can help recreate a feeling of control, and if you're anything like me, that first wig will blossom into multiple ones, and potentially even a collection to rival the one in your shoe cupboard!

Despite my obvious enthusiasm for wigs, and my encouragement to look on the bright side of your hairloss (search #100HairFreeDays on the PrettyBald blog), it's not always been easy and my first experiences with wig shopping were a complete and utter nightmare. Before I get started telling you that story, it's probably best that you understand a little more about me - I am incredibly lazy in many ways, and growing up, that laziness stretched to the way I looked; when other teenagers became obsessed with rolling up their skirts and applying some then wonky lines of eyeliner, I could always be counted on to appear with my skirt the right length and my face make-up free, regardless of whether my spots had flared up or not. Writing it like that, I sound horrifying and a little like the class freak; but in reality for me, I simply couldn't be bothered to get up earlier to put make-up on, when an extra half an hour in bed seemed just the ticket! Even to this day I treat make-up as a luxury; something I wear for important meetings or nights out, but not as part of my daily routine - I just don't care enough what others think of me and don't need make-up to give me confidence personally.

Switch back then to the beginning of my hairloss journey; my hairloss was fairly slow and I was officially diagnosed by the Dermatologist as having Alopecia Areata. I initially underwent steroid injections into the scalp, but despite stimulation of small patches of soft, downy hair, regrowth was restricted to the injection site and the hairloss elsewhere didn't slow even marginally. The Dermatologist suggested we didn't persevere with the treatment and that in all likelihood I could expect progression to Alopecia Totalis. He wasn't wrong, but at the time that situation seemed hopeless and so I did my research and toddled off to visit a Trichologist (I can confirm not Mark Blake who wasn't a Trichologist at the time, but another local to me); I walked in and she must have cottoned on that the untreatable nature of alopecia can make sufferers desperate to try something, anything to stem the loss. I was no different and aside from starting the session with "Your hairloss is progressing and there's no sign of the follicles, so you'll lose it all", which nearly made me vomit in fear, she then progressed to talking wigs (which I "wasn't ready for yet") at the same time plying me with some expensive Forever Living Aloe Vera Juice, some specialist concealing make-up and a bottle of Minoxodil. I left that clinic hundreds of pounds worse off, and despite religiously applying Minoxodil and drinking bucketloads of Aloe Vera for two months it did absolutely nothing and I was left with a bitter taste in my mouth about this 'specialist'. I decided then I wasn't going back to her for wig advice and to this day I'm glad I didn't - I think the lack of empathy would have killed me and her commitment to high commission would have bled me dry too. 

From there I was at a loss where to go, but speaking to people I knew in the area, a number of people mentioned a male wig specialist who seemed to be the only one in Cheltenham. His mainstay day-to-day work was hair extensions including many of the ladies who work in Stringfellows, but he also offered a wig consultancy service to help and support those with hairloss. He seemed really positive and seemed to know his stuff, and most importantly his focus was on me, my hairloss and how I felt, not on the commission he could gain from me. We talked through a number of options, from a full wig (synthetic or human) to a hair piece, and even extensions to fill out my thinning hair. In the end (after adamant support from him), I opted to purchase an off-the-shelf human hair wig to be cut up and formed into 'patches' to be glued in place on my head. At the time, it sounded perfect - my natural hair wouldn't be covered, the patches would blend in and most of all, it could be maintained just like my own hair!

Despite my initial positivity, this 'low-maintenance' option was anything but. The human hair wig wasn't the perfect shade, and needed to be dyed, the patches of hairloss grew faster than the patches of hair could be made and don't talk to me about the glue which was oozy, slimy and took 3-4 hours to take off, clean and reapply. I was devastated. Far from feeling my glamourous, normal self, I was left feeling bereft and helpless, and this was incredibly higher maintenance than my own hair had been. I was gutted, but at the time, couldn't blame his advice, so decided to return for 'solution' number two. This time, the hairloss was too bad, so a 'cover' was the only option - it was a lace-fronted synthetic wig, into which clips were sewn for added security. It was hot, bulky, changed the shape of my head, itched like hell and generally made me feel even less comfortable and at that stage I entered my 'social recluse' phase, avoiding situations with people I didn't know and operating a 'zero camera' policy wherever possible.

This was one of my lowest points and it was directly linked to my wig. The unnatural appearance of my locks, coupled with the discomfort of the wig, not to mention the 'tugging' sensation on my scalp from the clips and I was pretty much at rock bottom. From here, I didn't know where to go and I wasn't sure there was a solution for me! Still, when it reached the stage where there was barely enough hair for the clips to cling on to, I returned again, this time looking for a more permanent solution - a human hair one preferably.

This time, a custom-made, hand-produced, European Remy hair wig was proposed and I went with it - finally, hair that would look just like mine, on a cap that fitted my head so perfectly it would be like a second skin. What's more, the cap would feature a silicone strip which would not only grip my head naturally, but which would enable tape or glue to be applied for added security - I was in my element! The only thing left to do was wait eight little weeks for it to arrive and I'd be happy!

Sixteen weeks later, the wig still hadn't arrived - there was no sign of it and the factory 'couldn't trace it'. I was devastated. My synthetic wig was loose, uncomfortable and in very bad repair and my confidence was at rock-bottom! When it finally arrived, the worst possible thing happened - it was wrong! The cap was far to big - in fact I could put it on my head with my hand up inside and even worse, it was 8, not 18 inches! I was gutted and refused to pay for it, and that's when I realised, no matter how well-intentioned the individual, it's very little use when they're not qualified.

Despite a pretty poor start to my wig journey, I did eventually find someone who was qualified and well informed in all things wig. They also talked me through each different type and then combined with a lot of my own research, I finally felt in control of my own destiny. As a result, I now have a small addiction (14 wigs and counting) and have a full range of synthetic and human hair ones that give me a lot of variety and choice! The best thing of all? Even though every one of mine is an 'off-the-shelf' one, they fit like a glove and still look incredibly natural - nothing like my very first ones!

For me, what I have learned from this experience is not to give up in pursuit of what you want. If a wig is the right way for you to go, then be honest and don't give up in finding and gaining what you want. What's more, if you are opting to visit a wig shop and not to buy them online, then check out the reviews and ask how they are qualified! It just might save you a whole heap of heartbreak!

Victoria x

My first wig - bulky, frizzy and unnatural

First wig - not doing well in the heat either

Loving my synthetic bob!

...and this curly one too!

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#100HairFreeDays Week 6 - we're getting there!

We're getting there folks! This week's #100HairFreeDays challenge means we're almost halfway there! Let's hope we can make a full 100...

• doesn't get in your face when you are playing sport / running
• provides a comedy act when your wig gets caught on a tree. #TrueStory, but you have to laugh!
• makes you more aerodynamic which will shave a half second off your winning swim time
• your hair doesn't get stuck to your lip gloss
• no more hair washing every other day - once a month will do!
• has made me a more patient, understanding and compassionate person
• means I have a whole new set of dad-style jokes that only I can crack!

Don't forget, if you want to let us know the reasons you love your bald head, please email us or Tweet Us!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

#100HairFreeDays Part Five - a full month gone and we're a third of theway through!

For part five of #100HairFreeDays, I was sat on the sofa with my mum, chatting about my hairloss journey and coming up with ideas! There's still lots of good reasons to come, but they're stretching my brain to remember them all!

• A personal experience one for me with alopecia was appreciating that I wasn't ill with something more life-threatening!
• No disgusting hairballs in the sink plughole! You know the ones I mean!
• On the same theme, no stray hairs clinging to the carpet, or wrapped round the hoover head, or anywhere else really
• Saves me 20 minutes a day that would otherwise be spent blow-drying hair
• and less blow-drying means less electricity - in fact now I don't even own a hairdryer
• Holding a friend's baby, there's no hair for them to pull! Very relevant when they're learning to grip!
• no more sweaty betty hair at the gym - actually it's the sign of a good workout, BUT the stringy hair look is probably out!

Phew! Another week done and we're still thinking of the positives of hairloss! As we've said before, these blogs aren't designed to make you covet hairloss (who would), but they are hopefully demonstrating that it's not all bad! If you have a hairloss positive, don't forget to email us or tweet us and we'll add them to the list! 

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

#100HairFreeDays Part Four

The heat is on and finding more #100HairFreeDays benefits is getting challenging! Here is the round-up from Week Four; nearly a third of the way there!

• Means no nits or lice when they are going around the school!
• No grey hairs when all our friends get old 
• My highlights come ready designed - no expensive trips to the hairdressers every six weeks to get them redone
• No roots - alright some people like them, but personally they're not my thing! No hair means no roots!
• Dandruff is a thing of the past! Period!
• Avoid the £15 price tag on a bottle of home hair dye
• and on the same theme, no dye stains on your hairline where you forgot to apply Vaseline!

Don't forget, if you have any suggestions, send us an email or tweet us and we'll make sure we include them!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

A really sad problem for #BaldHeadedBeauties

Losing your hair is tough and anyone that tells you otherwise probably hasn't experienced it first hand. There are things which can help, like wigs, headscarves and hats, but not everyone feels comfortable using these! There are then those who elect to become a #BaldHeadedBeauty, braving the bald come rain or come shine*!

A very interesting side-effect of losing your hair (at least in my opinion) is society's reaction to it; some people take it in their stride, some will stop and stare, but for some reason, for many, baldness seems to come with a sign that says "Talk to me; I'm dying to hear your opinion!" Whether you are male or female without hair, your lack of luscious locks seems to generate a talking point. Meeting one chap a few weeks ago, he said in his experience losing his hair opened him up to bald jokes and people pointing out he was going bald; in his words, whilst he doesn't particularly mind nowadays, he knows he is balding and if you advised someone they were fat, there would be uproar! Personally, I don't have a huge issue with the comments, because I have taken a personal stance to take the time to explain and educate, raising a little bit more awareness, but I really appreciate those who find it difficult.

On Facebook, I am connected to many suffering with Alopecia and other forms of hairloss. A couple of days ago, I saw a story from a friend who had been approached in a public place (with her young daughter) and told her hairloss was all her own fault and she needed to look after her health and diet better. Nope; pretty sure that's not what's behind the alopecia! Unfortunately, this is more common than it sounds and I recently read an article about a young lady in New Zealand with a similar experience...

As a hairdresser, losing her hair was pretty traumatic, but something she took in her stride. Straight away, she opted to be a #BaldHeadedBeauty, embracing her hairloss and going hair free. Four years later, she's taken the very tough, very personal decision to start wearing wigs; whilst many people go the other way, her decision has been born and triggered by the sheer level of comments and feedback she received. In the article, she described the fact she doesn't want to be accused of 'hiding behind her wigs', but she's struggled with the number and variety of comments; it wasn't that they were even negative, just the number of times a day she had to explain her look and her condition! Whilst on the one hand, this approach has meant she's spent four years educating and raising awareness of the condition, just because of how she looks, I can also empathise with the amount of energy and time required to make all these explanations! What a sad and very tough choice she's had to face!

I totally get the fascination - as a species our curiosity seems naturally endless, and I bet if people thought they were creating a problem they'd be mortified - but it's hard to imagine the endless questions the #BaldHeadedBeauty face!

Sometimes, I wish there was a simpler way to explain that didn't have require so much effort and energy!

In the meantime, for those who do want to opt for the bald, don't be afraid - I've regularly gone out bald and whilst I don't do it all the time, my experience is that the comments aren't that common! I think in part, a job like hairdressing makes it worse, putting you in the limelight!

What about your own experiences? How have they been?

Victoria x

*We advise you gorgeous baldies to wear suncream if the sun is shining! A tomato head is not comfortable - trust me, I know!

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#WigWorry? Nights out...

A lot of people have a #WigWorry, from whether it looks good, to whether it's secure! Along the way, we'll try to avert your wig fears and tell you of our own experiences! If you've got one you want to share, or want us to talk about, please tweet us or email us.

My first #WigWorry is appearance...

Is a wig realistic? Will people notice? Will I still look as nice? Now obviously, I can't comment on the wig you are opting for / actually wear, however wigs are definitely something you should invest time, money and effort in; a good one will look ultra-glam and it's unlikely that ANYONE will notice it's a wig! Most people will simply comment on how nice your hair is and where you had it done - the biggest challenge you'll face is how to answer this and how much you're prepared to reveal!

This weekend, I went out clubbing with the bestie - I opted for my red fitted jumpsuit (think Wonder Woman or The Incredibles), my sleek brown bob and a fairly natural make-up look! In I strolled in my four inch, silver killers heels, feeling confident and glam and uber swish!

About halfway through the night, a particularly bubbly and happy chappy started staring at me! The stare went on a few seconds longer than was comfortable; I started to be concious - had my wig slipped, was it obvious, did I look somehow odd? A quick glance in the mirror confirmed it was still in place and looked as I expected, so did it just look fake? A few seconds later, all was revealed - over he strolls and says how lovely look (*blushes*), then he has the cheek to ask my age! Being the honest person I am, I tell the truth (the grand old age of 25 folks) and he looks at me in astonishment - "I didn't expect that" he says "I'm 19. Good on you for still being out at your age!"

So there you have it folks; my worst fears about my wig weren't realised! Nope, it's not about the way my wig looks; it's not that I didn't look like me! Instead, now I have something new to focus on - the fact that frankly, I'm apparently too old to venture into a club!

Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

How a $10,000 wig helps save this TV programme money...

About a year ago, I discovered the addictive TV series that is 'The Good Wife'; an engaging blend of American politics and law, following Alicia Florrick as she is forced to re-enter the world of work, juggling being a lawyer with family life and a politician husband in prison! I could NOT stop watching it and was uber overexcited to find they'd added Season Five to Netflix about three weeks ago! I devoured it and then to my delight discovered they're showing Series Six on TV at the moment! Cue record!

Core character Alicia Florrick is played by Actor Julianna Margulies' who I must say sports the classiest, most gorgeous hairstyles ever! She's like the Princess Kate of the legal world and I've often envied her perfectly coiffed tresses!

Alicia Florrick:



Anyway, a few days ago, during an interview on CBS on The Late Show with David Letterman, Julianna revealed that her luscious locks are in fact a wig... a $10,000 wig! Not only that, but she has more than one of them, changing her style each season and keeping the others 'on file' for flashbacks. Her natural hair is more naturally curly and the Directors wanted to achieve, sleeker, more refined look.

The wig is beautiful, human hair and clearly has a lace front to keep the hairline as natural as possible. In fact, each one is perfectly measured and created for her by hand, For £10,000 it should be! Apparently, this investment does save the show thousands of dollars each series in hairstylist time, but it's still pretty bonkers!

In the interview, she does have some odd opinions on 'cheap' wigs - by that we presume she means anything up to $9,999  - but it's pretty funny! We've added it to the TV / Documentaries playlist on our Youtube channel or you can watch it here...



Victoria x

www.prettybald.co.uk Twitter: @PrettyBald

Pro wigs.Co.UK reveiw.

Welcome one and all !!

On January the 30th , I took the plunge and decided, right let's get me a wig !

Now, as anyone who knows, the process of actually loosing your hair and watchin each strand  fall out is very distressing, as it was for me. I became desperate. I didn't want anyone to find out. I just wanted to get a wig and cover up my balding head.

After googleing and searching the Internet I came across a website called
PRO WIGS.CO.UK.
I looked at all the reviews and they were all fantastic !
So, I searched as hard as I could to find a wig that mimicked my natural hair and colour . I had found the perfect wig. Or had I ?

I purchased the wig then and there. According to the website I would see my wig in a week and a half, so I was relieved and very excited!
The website also had a tracker , which let you follow were your wig was , for example when it was being sent to quality control and when it was sent to a courier.

When my wig had passed 'being made' and 'quality Control' it then told me  'sent to courier , you will be sent the tracking Imfomation soon' in under a  week . This was great, I fully believed my wig would be here in under two weeks .

Three weeks had past since my purchased. I patiently waited, but I was getting desperate . I emailed the company , i searched and searched on their website but there Was no contact number to ring . It turns out the company is actually based in China.
3 long days later, I received a blunt and frankly very unkind emailed stating that there 'system' was down and that my wig is still undergoing process. Whatever that means. I was getting very upset,they were quick enough to take my money, but couldn't inform me about there, apparent system failure. 
I was beginning to get stressed and worried, because I thought that I had been scammed.
I continued to email the company everyday asking 'were is my wig!' With no reply.
Eventually over a month later ( after given up and assuming I'd lost money to a scam) my wig turned up .

It was awful ,it did not look anything like the picture presented . The tracks were so thin , and there was hardly any hair on them .
I had ordered the colour to be a 28r , which is a slightly auburn colour. The ends of the wig were purple and there were patches all over the wig were it was missing colour .
Overall this wig was a mess , there was no shape ( like the picture) and the quality of the hair (human hair) was dry .
The wig also shedded alot, there wasnt alot of hair on the tracks anyway it was NOT good.

I emailed the company demanding a refund because the quality was shocking . Iv emailed everyday with no reply . I am still in process of trying to get my money back.

Overall , if you are searching for a wig!  
I do not recommend this site at all .
Avoid prowigs.co.uk at all costs.

Till next time
Danielle x

Having a BALL !

Welcome one and all !!

On Saturday the 28th of February , I was invited to a very classy charity ball by my partner, whose sister had worked very hard in organising.
So, a charity ball means looking your best. Beautiful dresses , fabulous stillettos, flawless makeup and the perfect  hair.......Oh boy.

Not only did I have to look the part, but it was the first time meeting a lot of friends/family of my other half's. So looking good was important ..... no pressure then.

At this point all I was concerned about was my hair,well lack of it. When I had my own locks, I would of most likely, flipped and clipped and curled and twirled it everywhere . But now ... I'v got a standard brown wig to play with. Yay.

To start with ,i was lucky enough to get myself a hair cut by my boyfriends mother. She cut me a stylish fringe and then thinned out the ends of the hair , to make it less wig like and more like real hair.
After, I took the straightners and started going over the hair to defrizz the synthetic curls. (Which were not attractive) making sure Im flicking the ends to shape my face.
As someone who absolutely hates having hair in their face, I pulled back a few strands of hair from the front and clipped them to the side . Given me ,what I like to call , my ethereal look . ( don't ask.)
Feeling pretty proud of myself , I looked in the mirror ...... 'This still looks like a wig' I moan to partner in frustration.

Kieran, who is my partner, being the clever man he is ,came up with the idea of trying to create a parten! 'Yes!' I squealed. Using a concealer stick , he parted the hair to the side , (how I like it). He then dabbed a few spots of concealer on to the lace which was now on veiw. Then, using only his fingers, blended the concealer onto the lace and the hair line, creating  a realistic parten........It worked ! It looked so much better.

Knowing I had the hair just the way I wanted ( with what I had. ) I felt confident to walk down the stairs and show of my look with a smile !

I will add a tutorial soon .

Danielle x